Husband Wishes to Avoid Future Legal Liabilities by Publicly Divorcing His Wife While They Are Still Together, Claiming ‘Love Is More Than A Piece of Paper'

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
May 7, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

Some men and their nerves can truly make you doubt whether real love even exists anymore. How can someone date, marry and even have a kid with someone they claim to love but still only care about themselves?

The guy in this Reddit story deserves an award for how poorly he treated his wife, and by an award we mean a large item being thrown at him. First, they both decided to split up even though they had a two-year-old son together, then he asked her to get back together. He then flipped out and demanded a divorce but didn't sign the papers. And finally, he decided he wanted a divorce without actually ending the relationship, mainly so he wouldn't have to face legal liabilities.

The emotional rollercoaster he has put his poor wife through is enough to make anyone lose it, but she keeps going for the sake of their son. She now turns to Reddit for advice about what she should do next.

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    My 26M husband wants a divorce but wants to stay with me, 26F. We've been married 6 years and have a 4yr old son. Thoughts or advice?
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    We separated 2 years ago, my son and I moved back to my home state & with my parents. We were constantly fighting before I left and it got really bad so he told me he wanted a divorce. I was very hurt
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    emotionally when I left and had a lot of mental health issues b/c of everything he put me through. I accept I am also at fault for our problems.
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    As I was healing, he reached out to me and wanted to get back together. At first, I refused but I eventually gave him a chance. During this time, he found out that I reported him for not providing financial
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    support. He's military and obligated to provide for his family since we were still married. So, he was forced to send me a set amount each month; he was soon to be deployed and I wanted to make
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    sure he helped me with our son before he left. He was hurt so I eventually filed for divorce and sent him the paperwork for him to sign while he was deployed. He was the one in a hurry to divorce, I told him I would wait
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    till he returned. He never signed it and we began talking again and healing together. The case was dropped due to no progression.
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    He returned a yr ago and we've still been separated. He's selling the house and moving back here closer to my son and I next month. We've grown so much and have gotten to a really good place but we still have
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    occasional fights. I have trust issues and become paranoid about many things so this also causes fights. Because of this, he suggests that we divorce but stay together and keep trying.
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    He says marriage is only a legal obligation and it shouldn't matter. He prefers to do it before it gets any worse between us. He wants to protect himself financially b/c he doesn't want me going after any new house he buys. He also
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    wants to make sure he gets time with our son and that it is legally written down. I was originally fighting for full physical custody and possible supervised visitation b/c he was an a & never watched him. Ive seen him get better &
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    agree that he has every right to have his time with our son. I also understand a boy needs his father. He claims this is for me b/c it will "show me that he truly loves me and cares for me".
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    That this will help me see that he'll always be here for me even though there's no legal obligation, like giving me more assurance. Thinks it might be better for us and we could also live our lives separately but still be together.
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    I don't agree with this and told him if we divorce he's going to lose me b/c I will not keep trying. He says he'll keep trying anyways. I'll always care for him but I'd prefer to coparent and move on and be single instead.
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    I see this only causing more issues for me & can't help but think he's just been manipulating me into getting a better outcome in divorce. Anyone agree with him and could give me more perspective to this? I feel like I deserve
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    better. He still calls me like nothing's changed& tells me he misses me & checks on me which is very confusing for me.
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    D survival-nut. 23 hr. ago Everything he is planning is for his own best interest. He wants the benefits of marriage but none of the liabilities like shared assets or possibly monogamy. Do what is best for you and your son.
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    Oldgal_misspt 22 hr. ago This right here. Get a divorce, set custody and CS, and move on from this guy. There are better men out there that won't string you along, or maybe just be single for a while and enjoy someone not around. Lg you
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    ionlyreadtitle 23 hr. ago He already has you. If he wants a divorce. Then it's over. Time to move on. Why exactly does he want to spend all this money on a divorce just to stay with you? Will he marry you again once he makes up his decision?
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    SnooWords4839 - 23 hr. ago He only came back because you reported him for not providing. He wants the divorce, so he isn't responsible for you, only child support. He wants to buy a home after the divorce, so you have no
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    right to it. You need a good divorce lawyer. There is no reason to stay together after the divorce, this man is financially alive.
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    Dog1andDog2andMe · 20 hr. ago And when this man sells the house, make sure you get your fair share of it (since you are still married) ... this man wants his cake and ice cream without paying for it. He's also a negligent, ave man who I
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    hope you have a good therapist to help you gain strength and cut your ties (except related to getting your fair share from divorce, getting your son his fair share of support).
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    DatabaseVirtual952 OP 19 hr. ago So... he's selling the house to his mother's cousin who owns a real estate company. Apparently they're doing a contract where they finish paying within 6 years so he won't see any equity till later. He says he won't get any and it will only pay off his debt, but he could be lying about it.
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    Floppycakes 19 hr. ago • edited 18 hr. ago That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. You need a lawyer like yesterday. Don't believe a word he says. Get your ducks in a row. Have the lawyer get you every penny you deserve.
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    AND DON'T SIGN ANYTHING WITHOUT YOUR LAWYER THERE. Now is not the time to give him the benefit of doubt, it's time to secure you and your child's futures, legally.
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